I Will Mourn on Sunday
5 October, 2010 § Leave a comment
Suicide in a minority belief can sometimes appear to be heroic and last effort chance to communicate. I bring to attention the case seven young gay boys who have in the recent months all committed suicide, Tyler Clementi, Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Justin Aaberg, Raymond Chase and Billy Lucas. This post is in response to a group of sympathetic supporters who propose that on October 21’st 2010, all of the sympathetic, to the Lesbian Gay Bi-sexual Trans-sexual & Queer (LGBTQ) cause, should honor these boys as martyrs and wear purple all day on that day. A recently created Facebook group states, “We will wear purple in honor of the 6 (7) gay boys who committed suicide in recent weeks/months due to homophobic abuse in their homes at their schools. Purple represents Spirit on the LGBTQ flag and that’s exactly what we’d like all of you to have with you: spirit. Please know that times will get better and that you will meet people who will love you and respect you for who you are, no matter your sexuality” (Spirit Day October 21st 1). On the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ) Center website they post these sort of injuries and deaths on their page writing, “While these tragic losses have come to public attention in recent days, there are constantly examples of violent acts of hate, bias and discrimination that go unnoticed or unreported in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer and transgender communities. The UNC-LGBTQ Center calls upon people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and gender expressions to stand against acts of harassment, bullying, intimidation, bias, and discrimination both subtle and egregious” (http://lgbtq.unc.edu/).
It is unfortunate that in order to communicate clearly with the heterosexual community these boys (and others) felt they must silence themselves for good. To be oppressed is what it means to be in a minority, this may not be right but it is the truth. They took their own lives because they lost hope or spirit in what they believed in. Individualized they had no encouragement from anywhere except within themselves, and so they were presented with two paths. They could submit to peer –pressure and change their decided sexual orientation or defiantly continue on in what they believe to be the correct sexual orientation for them. These recent suicides have been the product of indecision and uncertainty in the face of what it means to make an independent and individual choice. If I were of the same persuasion and if I honored them like this, I would be upholding an embarrassment to what it means to persevere in the cause I believe in. These dispirited suicides are tragic not heroic, they nest in hopelessness and not in martyrdom. I will mourn on Sunday.