Tact |Gentlemen & Scholars
30 September, 2012 § Leave a comment
Generally speaking there are three guidelines for the gentleman concerning his conduct and speech and they all start with the letter “t”. Diagrammatically, truth is the common trait that overlaps in each instance but each has its own lesson to teach as well. A gentleman is tactful, tasteful, and timely.
Tact, these days, is a trait lacking in the speech and writings of both young and old men. Merriam-Webster.com defines tact as 1. sensitive mental or aesthetic perception and 2.a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense. The Apostle Paul in Romans 12:18 exhorts his readers, “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men”. Paul is encouraging the church at Rome to display tact. In essence, tact is the truth told in such a way as keeps the peace. It is the soft answer that turns away wrath in Proverbs 15:1. The tactful gentleman, (indeed, without tact I would not call any man a true gentleman) disregards his immediate feelings and answers with what he knows is the truth, for God‘s sake, and in love for the sake of his fellow-man.
Keep your eyes peeled for “Timing,” part 2 of the Gentlemen & Scholars series.